Why be Kinky? Part 2 - Tops

Why be Kinky? - Part 2 Tops

What is Topping? - Topping, Doms/Domme, Sadists, why? Power, pain and passion?

I’m sure there are a wide variety of reasons that someone wants to be a Top. 

Being a Top is the person in a kink scene that is ‘doing’ the action. They are the person holding space, directing the scene and directing the bottom. Doms, dominants like to have control and power. Doms can also be Tops, Sadists or Service Tops. Tops can be kind, they can be cruel.

Here are some different types of Tops:

Sadists - Usually people first think of Sadists, getting off on causing pain for others. There are people like this, they match with bottoms that enjoy pain or really like to serve. This is an edgy place to play, often it involves high levels of pain, both physically and mentally. Sadists can get into murky water with scenes and need very strong boundaries and comprehensive negotiation. There is a thrill to play at the edge.

Service Tops - These people enjoy giving an experience for the bottom, even if it’s not their kink. Service is a pleasure of its own. When you see the joy from creating a person's fantasy and ecstasy. This service can be for pain or pleasure or headfuckery.

Professional Dominatrixes - Pro Doms are people being paid to be Doms. They are highly trained and committed people. Pro Doms are motivated by income and often have a high value to serve. They can also use a passion for kink to be a daily experience. These people are often called Mistress if female. 

***Another title is Master (and the bottoms are called slaves) There is currently a conversation in the kink scene to change these titles. Because of the politicals, suffering and history of slavery. It is used by many people in different ways.