What is Sexological Bodywork?
Sex Bod is MY PASSION!
When I did my training in Sex Bod (Sexological Bodywork) I felt like I had come home. It was so so so exciting to combine my passion for sex education and bodywork. I know that as a sex educator I can talk to people about their bodies and sexuality, but, being able to show someone on their body is 1000% easier and clearer. The people who come for sessions are usually deeply moved by the experience. It really thrills me to offer this service. Giving people an opportunity to know themselves and find new ways to connect. The connections can be with solo sex or sexual experiences with other people.
Sex Bod is an educational modality, often using touch to help people learn and heal with their bodies and sexuality. It can be called erotic or somatic as a way to explain the intersection of learning, bodies and sex. It is helpful for individuals, couples and groups for their exploration of pleasure. Each session is customized to the individuals, each practitioner can interpret the modality to suit the situation. If there is touch it is usually ‘one-way’, meaning the practitioner is having their hands on the participant. Rather than a ‘two-way’ touch where both people can touch each other.
If touch is involved the people in the session will make very clear boundaries and discuss a consent agreement before anything happens. Many sessions involved a massage table or similar.
For individuals the sessions might involve erotic mapping of the body, this often includes the genital or anus. The sessions are clothing-optional, some people are fully clothed while others will be partially or fully naked. Sex Bod places a big focus on self-pleasure as a way for people to understand their own bodies. Sex Bod can happen with groups of lovers or in workshops too.
People come to see a sexological bodyworker for a range of reasons including premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, inability to orgasm, relief from pelvic pain, couples wanting to enhance their sex life, learning to give and receive pleasure, recovering sexual functioning and pleasure after childbirth, genital, pelvic or breast surgery, accepting and loving one’s body, gender and sexuality or to find a deeper understanding of pleasure. People often find their way to Sex Bod through the referral of a therapist, doctor, social worker or massage therapist.
Sex Bod places great importance on breath, movement, sound, touch and the focus of attention (I could write essays on each of these topics). There is an emphasis on connection to our own pleasure and bodies. These fundamental experiences are vital to finding healing and pleasure.
My own journey with sex bod started before I did the training. I received 10 sessions from a very experienced practitioner. I had a healing in my body that significantly changed my life. I had been working on this part of my body for years with talk therapists and the medical profession. It was from the sex bod sessions that I felt safe and guided to trust. Profoundly the pain disappeared and has never returned. I am committed to offering this service for more people.